Here's hoping you have a head on your shoulders that you use for more than holding your hair.
There are two ways you could have reacted after reading the truth.
---You ran back and confided what was said..and believe that 'YOU' will be the one to succeed where others have failed. Good luck with that. You will face the same things that the others did in your own time. You were warned. If you chose to pretend that you can fix "it", Yahoo for you. Hope you can weather what is ahead. It's not going to be fun or pretty, tissues will be required, and a good support system that is independent of him to help you. I cannot predict when, but I can assure you if will happen. A lot of alone computer time is all he needs. Accept for the one affair at work, all his conquests were online and on his phone, including you. That is his hunting ground.
---If you think for yourself..congrats. Break the pattern. Don't fall for the I can fix it because I am different than you belief. (that is what I fell for..believing that I could change him...not possible. He must deal with his problems alone to make a real change, not running to someone else to help fix them. At this point in his life his behavior patterns are set in to stay. He has already shown x2 relationships that cheating is what he does. I cannot speak for his wife, but it happened every year we were together. The boredom syndrome. Be a stronger woman then we were and step away.
There are a lot of men out there that can offer you a healthier relationship, not one that started as cheating on someone else. Because seriously, if he can cheat on those relationships, why not cheat on you? You have all the same parts only younger, meaning you don't have anything that the next person won't have. Youth will not make a difference. And unless you are a brainless doormat, your personality won't make a difference either. I am sure if that is true of you, he won't have any trouble controlling you. If you chose to step away, then I know you will be better off then we were.
I hope you decided to save yourself, and not sacrifice yourself. I really do. It's really too bad that certain people don't come with a label warning of what will happen to you if you give your heart away.
There are two ways you could have reacted after reading the truth.
---You ran back and confided what was said..and believe that 'YOU' will be the one to succeed where others have failed. Good luck with that. You will face the same things that the others did in your own time. You were warned. If you chose to pretend that you can fix "it", Yahoo for you. Hope you can weather what is ahead. It's not going to be fun or pretty, tissues will be required, and a good support system that is independent of him to help you. I cannot predict when, but I can assure you if will happen. A lot of alone computer time is all he needs. Accept for the one affair at work, all his conquests were online and on his phone, including you. That is his hunting ground.
---If you think for yourself..congrats. Break the pattern. Don't fall for the I can fix it because I am different than you belief. (that is what I fell for..believing that I could change him...not possible. He must deal with his problems alone to make a real change, not running to someone else to help fix them. At this point in his life his behavior patterns are set in to stay. He has already shown x2 relationships that cheating is what he does. I cannot speak for his wife, but it happened every year we were together. The boredom syndrome. Be a stronger woman then we were and step away.
There are a lot of men out there that can offer you a healthier relationship, not one that started as cheating on someone else. Because seriously, if he can cheat on those relationships, why not cheat on you? You have all the same parts only younger, meaning you don't have anything that the next person won't have. Youth will not make a difference. And unless you are a brainless doormat, your personality won't make a difference either. I am sure if that is true of you, he won't have any trouble controlling you. If you chose to step away, then I know you will be better off then we were.
I hope you decided to save yourself, and not sacrifice yourself. I really do. It's really too bad that certain people don't come with a label warning of what will happen to you if you give your heart away.
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