I know that several times previously I have mentioned R as being my best friend. I've asked how he could do that to a best friend, I've mentioned missing my best friend. But I never thought to ask him what I was to him. Was I also his best friend? Or do men not perceive women partners as friends as well as lovers? I'm confused, I thought that you could be both, I did not think that there were limitations to facets of a relationship.
I've offered friendship again, several times, but it really seems to me that he prefers to keep a huge distance between us. I'd like to say " dude..I'm away. I have a years lease signed. I am obviously no longer a threat to you. You don't have anything left to hide." The one response I did received seemed just a 'sure' answer..non-committal, given maybe to make me stop asking. We used to talk about everything together, politics, the world, life in general..for hours.
I have a number of women best friends. I truly have been blessed with quite a few wonderful friendships throughout my life. Being best friends with a man is rare for me. Maybe men don't see friendships as 'best', they are simply friends; old friends, co-workers, new friends. Do men share the same closeness with other men? Or is it a macho thing considered too girly to share like that?
Just thoughts..because I did forget to ask. I presumed, and that makes an ass out of me. It might be that he never felt or thought of me that way, a gender difference. Or, it simply might be that he prefers his past to stay out of his new life. I kind of blend all parts of my life together. There is no separation, all of it makes me who I am today.
Goodnite all,
k
Song dedication today: Best friend, by Harry Nilsson
"People let me tell about my best friend"..from Courtship of
Eddie's father..a very old tv show.
I've offered friendship again, several times, but it really seems to me that he prefers to keep a huge distance between us. I'd like to say " dude..I'm away. I have a years lease signed. I am obviously no longer a threat to you. You don't have anything left to hide." The one response I did received seemed just a 'sure' answer..non-committal, given maybe to make me stop asking. We used to talk about everything together, politics, the world, life in general..for hours.
I have a number of women best friends. I truly have been blessed with quite a few wonderful friendships throughout my life. Being best friends with a man is rare for me. Maybe men don't see friendships as 'best', they are simply friends; old friends, co-workers, new friends. Do men share the same closeness with other men? Or is it a macho thing considered too girly to share like that?
Just thoughts..because I did forget to ask. I presumed, and that makes an ass out of me. It might be that he never felt or thought of me that way, a gender difference. Or, it simply might be that he prefers his past to stay out of his new life. I kind of blend all parts of my life together. There is no separation, all of it makes me who I am today.
Goodnite all,
k
Song dedication today: Best friend, by Harry Nilsson
"People let me tell about my best friend"..from Courtship of
Eddie's father..a very old tv show.
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